Every Situation Has Their Song

Every songs created by people has their own story. Some songs tell love story, break up, family issues, friendship or anything. But don't we think it also works the other way? That every situation can has their song as well.

Yes, every situations has their reason. And of course God put good reasons and purposes and not a bad one. That is why we actually always has reason to be thankful in any situation. Or in other word we supposed to always have a singing heart in any situation, because when we are thankful miraculously God will pour joy for our soul.

Things happened to me lately made me hard to find the reason to be joyful. But My God so good =) He placed some people and let them be His vessel to pass His Joy and Peace for me. I felt like failures after failures were attacking me, pushing me back and down under fruz and depression (seriously sounds sarcastic). Worries and fear also come at the same time without patiently queue until my upset feeling because of failures gone. I ended up looking for physical help as well as doing my best to plan accordingly with my own strength. Keep trying to swim to the surface to get the air and to be able to breath freely, but I ended up losing my breath and almost dead. Thank God He didn't let me dying hopelessly, at the right time He gives me peace through His revelation.

Actually kind a hard to hear His voice lately, I felt so away from Him. I was expecting for help but help never come. While waiting I kept dwelling on my own strength.

Sometimes God's help is like helping a drowning person. It is easier to help them when they choose to not using their own strength and let the helper help them. Because when they are panic and tried to grip anything with their hands and moved their legs to stay floated, it will be hard for the helper to bring them up to the surface. Sometimes God wants us to let go our own strength and trust our life in Him, our Helper. It is easier for us to listen to His word when we surrender to Him rather than keeping our pride of our own strength.

And yes! I want to start surrendering my life to Him now. Maybe I have been too relied to my own life plan, while actually God has the better one for me. Well I might not know what God has stored for my future, but as I wait now I still want to do my best until the last fight. I dont want to be to slack, slumber and do nothing neither will I be too panic and expecting another "UnGodly" help.

Although failures after failures might have come and will come again but I want to stay strong with Him until the last battle of my waiting. I thank God for the problems in my life, They actually keeps me back to my first love to Him. That is my song! What is yours for your problem?

Rambo

I remember when i was 10, my dad bought me and my brother a dog. His name was rambo, a doberman dog. He was not a puppy, well trained and looked so sad and calm when we took him from his previous owner.

He looks like Rambo

Its not him, but Rambo was that kind of dog.
He was very close with my dad. Energetic move a lot and obedient.
I was just a kid back then i didn't really notice that Rambo was actually a loving dog.

One day my dad bought us another two puppies, Mercy and Hunter.
eventually he felt that he can't take care of the three dogs at the same time.
So, he decided to sell Rambo.

I remember, i went back from school and Rambo's next owner is in our house to take Rambo back with him.
I went to see Rambo, and i saw a face that i can never forget the whole my life. In fact i still remember the face until now. A very sad and calm face, the same as the time we buy Rambo from the previous owner.

Now I am 22, and still clearly remember Rambo's face when we sold him.
Anyway i dont know where rambo is now. Whether he is alive and loved or the opposite.
Now i miss him.
I was thinking of getting my self a dog companion lately, after a lot of thought about Rambo. And of course if it is possible.
a Poodle or Pomeranian

Pomeranian

Me Turned 22

Its a late blog post, my birthday was 2 weeks a go but i didn't have much time online. =) being away from family during birthday is not a preferable thing for me. I love to spend my birthday with my family. This year birthday, i cant go back to Jakarta due to the coming assignments and Final Year Project submission date. However i had wonderful loving people around me on my birthday and awesome celebration prepared by them. =) I thank God for everyone of them. For their smiles, greetings, prayers and of course presents.

Cake surprise by my housemates + my Dan + dewiii =)

I can actually feel the vibe of surprise, since everything that they do sounds so strange for the whole day.but still I can't hold my smile at all that night. Thanks all....
After that i opened my gift. Cute scented doll and photo frames from my housemates and an Instax Mini Polaroid Camera from Daniel. =)

I think I am into Polaroid now after I have this <3

It didn't stop there, they still surprised me with sweet (errr yea sweet except the part that my housemates bought me a monkey birthday card and wrote down that the monkey is me). Dan also give me a special handmade card with handwriting greetings from super unexpected people (Seriously amazed me =) )  

They asked me to posed like monkey

Handmade Bday Card From Dan =)

Another special greeting came from my best girls, with their fun, entertaining and outstanding pictures. =) I love them.

super outstanding people

My Puiy <3

My Ditty =)

  And of course I wont forget about the phone call made by my family =) although we are separated by distance, it wont reduce the power of prayer that they sent to me.
Lastly I really thank God for these people in my life who spared their time to celebrate my birthday =). I truly appreciate all of your love and effort in made the day amazing =).

my ever loving dan

These cute and caring boys

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from left to right (Dewi, Pupu, Nadiah, Nati, Rachel and Me)

Lets Build Meaningful Relationship - By Shirley Boon

a very recommended article written by Shirley Boon. I found it very informational, useful and relevant. =) enjoy reading this article people ...

A special feature article written for CHCKL BULLETIN Feb 26-27, 2011.
Over the past 10 years of being in the Pastoral ministry, I realize that one of the best ways to impact lives is by investing our time and energy to build meaningful relationships with people around us. I’ve learnt that being ‘relational’ doesn't mean you’re building meaningful relationship’.


Very often we become too occupied with tasks, events and even our ‘ministries’ and neglect building genuine relationships with the people around us. Thus, though many are still actively serving and striving for achievements, they are actually suffering silently from loneliness and rejection behind their masks of busyness.

Nobody is meant to be a loner, especially when you’re in this cool church! ☺

Here are 10 things I’ve learnt in my life that I’m trying my best to apply daily:

1. Learn To Communicate With Openness
A ‘Relationship breakdown’ is usually due to the lack of communication and too much of assumptions. Openness is one of the keys to build meaningful relationship. Learn to share your heart openly and communicate your thoughts in order to clarify, connect (understand) and then only conclude a matter.

2. Say No to Gossip!
Very often a ‘get-together’ or ‘hangout’ session can easily turn into a gossip party. We gotta be watchful of this deadly habit! If you really have to discuss about someone else (where most of the time is none-of-your-business), be sure your discussion is out of love and provides solutions for him/her to be a better person!

3. Cease to Judge Or Criticize
There are too many judges around us! Everyone likes to play ‘judge’, but only God is our judge, so let the others be silent. Judgment and criticism are simply seeing yourself as superior. Stop judging and learn to put grace on your lips by praising and encouraging others!

4. Don't Be Jealous, Be Zealous!
Jealousy can burn down a house. It destroys beautiful relationships. Guard your heart and do not allow comparison, competition and jealousy to creep into your life and caus you to turn into a selfish beast. Learn to celebrate joys and successes with others! Be zealous in love.

5. Let’s Be Real. Nobody likes a ‘fake’.
If everyone is relating to each other behind a mask, then all relationships are superficial. No wonder there are so many lonely souls out there! Let’s be real to each other. If they can’t accept you for who you really are, then what’s the point of having them in your life anyway? Take off your mask today!

6. Kick Out The ‘Offenses’
Keeping offenses in your heart is like having a bullet in your soul. Let me warn you that keeping offenses is highly destructive. It can even destroy a strong relationship if it is not dealt with soon enough. The way to remove offenses is to forgive as Christ has forgiven you. Remember, it is a choice!

7. They are not YOU, you are not THEM
Never impose your standards on others. You are not God. Have you met people where only their standards are ‘THE’ standards? It’s stressful hanging out with such people. We can’t expect everyone to like what we like because everyone is unique! We should celebrate diversity and appreciate uniqueness. If you think this is cool and they don't think so, love them anyway! ☺

8. Walk The Talk – Show Love and Empathy!
Yes! “Show” it with actions and not just your words. The best sermons preached are those sermons applied. Talk is cheap… living it may cost you everything. Let’s not become too mechanical in the way we care and love others. Let’s be human! Learn to empathize with them and you will win them over because there are indeed not many who ‘truly care’.

9. Putting Others First!
Has anyone told you yet? You’re NOT the center of the universe! Therefore, don't just think about yourself all the time. Abstain from the selfishness that dresses itself in many disguises. If you can start dying to yourself, you can then start living for others. Learn to esteem others better than yourself!

10. I Believe In You!
Believing in people is a great way to build meaningful relationship. I don't believe in building relationship by just ‘scratching the surface’. Go into that person’s life and minister to him/her is the best way to get connected. Don't condemn anyone. Learn to believe in people (with wisdom and discernment), you will win many friends.

Remember, success is not determined by how much money and fame you possess but by the fruits of meaningful relationships you’ve cultivated. The rich and famous may one day still die a lonely man.

So, let’s cultivate fresh love in our hearts and work on our relationships with one another. We are only as strong as our weakest link!
Why don't you make it your aim this year to restore broken relationships & start building meaningful relationships!

Love God, Love people, Love life!
Shirley Boon
(this article copy pasted from http://shirleyboon7.blogspot.com/2011/03/lets-build-meaningful-relationships.html)
Shirley Boon - Consecrated Yet Contemporary 聆命之页: LET’S BUILD MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS!

Who Are We To Judge?

It is common nowadays for every human to judge someone or something based on their appearance or even their past and background. Look around that the enemy had planted judgmental arrows in a lot of God creation's hearts.

http://www.thejakartaglobe.com/opinion/malaysian-muftis-poco-poco-ban-is-divisive/434732

this news site reported on how some people's perception towards a dance. some people banned some celebrity to work in entertainment industry based on their past bad news about that particular person. some people banned yoga or anything because of the other religious element inside it. ironicaly its also happened among us, some of us won't make friend to someone who has bad past because we are afraid that we are going to be affected by that person. or some of us judge someone is this kind of person or that kind of person because of things that they are say and they do in the present.
the truth is ''There is not a wise man among you, not even one, who will be able to judge between his brethen"
(1 Cor6:5)
its not our right to judge whether a dance is a bad influence for the community because its originated from a different culture. we should come back to our heart on what our intention is when we are dancing that dance.
it is not our right to banned someone to do his job or work. because its not us who give that person a job but its God.are we questioning God's plan on other people's life?
and we dont have the right to mistreat people because of our own perception toward that people and because of other people perception towards him or her. because we are not the one who knows every details in that person's life, even that person might not know every details in their life. only God knows.
we better learn how to see beyond the situation in the past and present, and start to change our glasses with a wider accepting perspective. eventhough our mind and thought are limited, our God is not limited He can use anything and anyone regardles of their pasts, backgrounds, mistakes and failures to be a blessing for His work and for His people. When that person has their bad time period, it just that person is in his or her process of life in God shapping them to be a better person.for life is not stagnant it is progressing. and the higher you go the stronger the wind. and we will never go higher if we avoid the wind face it and go through it. let us strengthen ourselves in God to cut the wind. in the end God not look at our situation but our heart respond towards that situation. lets be grateful and keep doing our best in everything that we do. For of Him and through Him and to Him are all things, to whom be glory forever. Amen. (Rom11:36)

Gossiping and scratching

Have you ever feel itchy and you want to scratch it sooo bad but your mom not allowing you to scratch? i know that's frustrating.
I am having an allergic right now. my skin turned into pinkish red and feel so itchy. i really want to scratch it, but i know it will create infections and will leave scars on my skin. i really don't want that to happen. but i kind a imagine, if i scratch it, it will feel soooooo gooooooooddddddd. but hmmmm without i realize it will actually make me feel itchier.

well, according to this website http://www.skinvitality.ca/blog/2010/11/itchy-skin :

"Although scientists aren’t really sure why we scratch to relieve and itch, they do know that itchiness tends to get worse if you scratch the affected area. There are three possible reasons for this:

1. Scratching the epidermis (the outer layer of the skin) makes it thicker, which can make it itchier.

2. Scratching can break the skin and make it more vulnerable to infection – and infection can make it itchier, not to mention cause a bigger problem like scarring and pigmentation irregularities.

3. Scratching becomes a habit, and a mindless reflex to an itch. The more you scratch, the more the area feels itchy, and the more you scratch. It’s a vicious cycle that you must consciously stop."

In order for me to ease my itchiness feeling :D i typed this random blog and linked the itchiness into a totally different scenario, which is gossip. after meditating my random thought, i find itchiness quite similar with gossip.
have you ever consciously or unconsciously dislike someone and find your self really want other people to know what he/she did wrong and secretly hoping that the other person will agree with you?
ahh yaa, thats definitely the symptom of you are about to commit a gossip activity =D...
you eagerly want other people to know bad things about him/her, like the itchiness that you massively, eagerly, desperately want to scratch.
and then, when you release the things about the person you dislike and find out that the third person don't agree with it, you will try to find more evidences and arguments to prove that your points are right, And when you finally get the third party agree with what ever motives she/he has, you will feel relieved for awhile.
Like the itchiness the more you scratch the more you want to scratch it harder and wider until you feel satisfied.
However, after awhile you will regret that you have scratched it, because you will feel even more itchy until it feels painful. Because the more you scratch the bigger possibility you will get infections and get your skin bleeding. the same thing with gossip the more you entertain your itchiness to talk about that person the bigger the opportunity it will rob the joy from your heart and get your heart infected with the 'bitterness disease' towards that person.
For example when that person getting a promotion you will be sad and compare him/her to your self. or when there is other people agreed, appraised, valued, loved, cared with him/her you will get upset (*mostly unconsciously).
You gtta be watch out, it is a heart disease =D.

and anything related to heart will not be easily cured, although there is a reconciliation between you and that person the scars might still be there. the same with the itchiness, after you scratch then caused an infection bleeding after it dried, and then it will be a scar on your skin.
Then. as the copied article above mentioned, scratching itchiness will create a habit of scratching whenever you feel itch, and it will obviously create the same cycle from itchy to scars all over again. until the scars covered all of your body.
As in gosip, the more you do it the more you want to collect more of it and spread of it until it a "gossiper" become your signature character. =D

ewww, i believe you dont want the ugly scars affecting your beautiful appearance. please please bear the itchiness with me, =D i need a friend who can stand with me in this itchiness now. IT IS SUPPER ITCHY.... and lets bear ourselves from the desire of doing gossip, i believe none of us want the bitterness disease that caused by doing gossip will affecting our physical appearance and robing the beauty of God given joy inside us.

Memberi Dalam Kekurangan

Giving is not always an easy things to do for every person. The matter of amount to give, the occasion, the necessity or many things else affecting the willingness of an individual to give. however most people will feel it easy to give after they received something.
The question is can we give in when even ourselves is in need?

Mark 12: 44 ''They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything--all she had to live on."

The story of The widow's offering could be a good role model for us related to the topic of giving when we are in need, because out of her needs and poverty she could give offering with all of her heart, while many other people give according to what they have and their wealth and their riches.

Let say that we are in a situation where we don't have that much cash, we walk around a mall and suddenly we see something that we think it could bless a person heart if we buy and give it to that person. It is maybe because they like it or they need it.
But actually, we are in need of something else.
How many of us choose to put aside our own agenda and choose to get that thing and bless that person heart by giving the thing that they need and they like?


Another scenario, let say that we just had a break up that make us upset and sad and disappointed and we think that we have all the right to be comforted and cared by other people. Suddenly, one of our friend text us and ask us whether we have time to talk or not, because He/She needs a person to talk to. It might be He/She having serious problem with the family, losing someone, etc. How many of us choose to put aside our problem and choose to listen to that person?

Some of us might refuse to put aside our own agenda and problem. Maybe because we think that we could only afford to buy the small teddy bear rather that the big teddy bear, then there is no point to give. or because we think that we also have a serious problem and we think that we could not think properly to arrange any wise word as an advice for our friends then there is no point to respond to the invitation.

The point is not how expensive the thing that we bought for that person or how powerful our advice for that person. It is about our heart willingness.

I believe the teddy bear lover friend wont mind the small teddy bear. At least, He/She will know that we care and remember about her.
I believe the other person wont mind to only have us listen and look at her eyes when she telling you her story, He/She might just need a person to share her problem with and feel relieved after share to us.

God loves a cheerful giver who willing to give with all of their heart no matter what the circumstances are, because He wants us to put our faith in Him for all that we need.

We don't need to be worry when we are in need because God is our portion, He is our provider who always provide all our needs. He is our father who always love us no matter what, He will provide us the love, care, comfort, financial, or anything that we need in a right time and in a right amount according to His richness and our capacity in Him.

After all giving is a realization of love.
By a sincere giving we are telling the person who receive that we love them.

-CarolinE-

Love is waiting - Brooke Fraser

In the autumn on the ground, between the traffic and the ordinary sounds
I am thinking signs and seasons while a north wind blows through
I watch as lovers pass me by
Walking stories - whos and hows and whys
Musing lazily on love
Pondering you
I’ll give it time, give it space and be still for a spell
When it’s time to walk that way we wanna walk it well

[CHORUS]
I’ll be waiting for you baby
I’ll be holding back the darkest night
Love is waiting ‘til we’re ready, ‘til it’s right
Love is waiting

It’s my caution not the cold
There’s no other hand that I would rather hold
The climate changes, I’m singing for strangers about you
Don’t keep time, slow the pace
Honey hold on if you can
The bets are getting surer now that you’re my man

[CHORUS]

[BRIDGE]
I could write a million songs about the way you say my name
I could live a lifetime with you and then do it all again
And like I can’t force the sun to rise or hasten summer’s start,
Neither should I rush my way into your heart