Me Turned 22

Its a late blog post, my birthday was 2 weeks a go but i didn't have much time online. =) being away from family during birthday is not a preferable thing for me. I love to spend my birthday with my family. This year birthday, i cant go back to Jakarta due to the coming assignments and Final Year Project submission date. However i had wonderful loving people around me on my birthday and awesome celebration prepared by them. =) I thank God for everyone of them. For their smiles, greetings, prayers and of course presents.

Cake surprise by my housemates + my Dan + dewiii =)

I can actually feel the vibe of surprise, since everything that they do sounds so strange for the whole day.but still I can't hold my smile at all that night. Thanks all....
After that i opened my gift. Cute scented doll and photo frames from my housemates and an Instax Mini Polaroid Camera from Daniel. =)

I think I am into Polaroid now after I have this <3

It didn't stop there, they still surprised me with sweet (errr yea sweet except the part that my housemates bought me a monkey birthday card and wrote down that the monkey is me). Dan also give me a special handmade card with handwriting greetings from super unexpected people (Seriously amazed me =) )  

They asked me to posed like monkey

Handmade Bday Card From Dan =)

Another special greeting came from my best girls, with their fun, entertaining and outstanding pictures. =) I love them.

super outstanding people

My Puiy <3

My Ditty =)

  And of course I wont forget about the phone call made by my family =) although we are separated by distance, it wont reduce the power of prayer that they sent to me.
Lastly I really thank God for these people in my life who spared their time to celebrate my birthday =). I truly appreciate all of your love and effort in made the day amazing =).

my ever loving dan

These cute and caring boys

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from left to right (Dewi, Pupu, Nadiah, Nati, Rachel and Me)

Lets Build Meaningful Relationship - By Shirley Boon

a very recommended article written by Shirley Boon. I found it very informational, useful and relevant. =) enjoy reading this article people ...

A special feature article written for CHCKL BULLETIN Feb 26-27, 2011.
Over the past 10 years of being in the Pastoral ministry, I realize that one of the best ways to impact lives is by investing our time and energy to build meaningful relationships with people around us. I’ve learnt that being ‘relational’ doesn't mean you’re building meaningful relationship’.


Very often we become too occupied with tasks, events and even our ‘ministries’ and neglect building genuine relationships with the people around us. Thus, though many are still actively serving and striving for achievements, they are actually suffering silently from loneliness and rejection behind their masks of busyness.

Nobody is meant to be a loner, especially when you’re in this cool church! ☺

Here are 10 things I’ve learnt in my life that I’m trying my best to apply daily:

1. Learn To Communicate With Openness
A ‘Relationship breakdown’ is usually due to the lack of communication and too much of assumptions. Openness is one of the keys to build meaningful relationship. Learn to share your heart openly and communicate your thoughts in order to clarify, connect (understand) and then only conclude a matter.

2. Say No to Gossip!
Very often a ‘get-together’ or ‘hangout’ session can easily turn into a gossip party. We gotta be watchful of this deadly habit! If you really have to discuss about someone else (where most of the time is none-of-your-business), be sure your discussion is out of love and provides solutions for him/her to be a better person!

3. Cease to Judge Or Criticize
There are too many judges around us! Everyone likes to play ‘judge’, but only God is our judge, so let the others be silent. Judgment and criticism are simply seeing yourself as superior. Stop judging and learn to put grace on your lips by praising and encouraging others!

4. Don't Be Jealous, Be Zealous!
Jealousy can burn down a house. It destroys beautiful relationships. Guard your heart and do not allow comparison, competition and jealousy to creep into your life and caus you to turn into a selfish beast. Learn to celebrate joys and successes with others! Be zealous in love.

5. Let’s Be Real. Nobody likes a ‘fake’.
If everyone is relating to each other behind a mask, then all relationships are superficial. No wonder there are so many lonely souls out there! Let’s be real to each other. If they can’t accept you for who you really are, then what’s the point of having them in your life anyway? Take off your mask today!

6. Kick Out The ‘Offenses’
Keeping offenses in your heart is like having a bullet in your soul. Let me warn you that keeping offenses is highly destructive. It can even destroy a strong relationship if it is not dealt with soon enough. The way to remove offenses is to forgive as Christ has forgiven you. Remember, it is a choice!

7. They are not YOU, you are not THEM
Never impose your standards on others. You are not God. Have you met people where only their standards are ‘THE’ standards? It’s stressful hanging out with such people. We can’t expect everyone to like what we like because everyone is unique! We should celebrate diversity and appreciate uniqueness. If you think this is cool and they don't think so, love them anyway! ☺

8. Walk The Talk – Show Love and Empathy!
Yes! “Show” it with actions and not just your words. The best sermons preached are those sermons applied. Talk is cheap… living it may cost you everything. Let’s not become too mechanical in the way we care and love others. Let’s be human! Learn to empathize with them and you will win them over because there are indeed not many who ‘truly care’.

9. Putting Others First!
Has anyone told you yet? You’re NOT the center of the universe! Therefore, don't just think about yourself all the time. Abstain from the selfishness that dresses itself in many disguises. If you can start dying to yourself, you can then start living for others. Learn to esteem others better than yourself!

10. I Believe In You!
Believing in people is a great way to build meaningful relationship. I don't believe in building relationship by just ‘scratching the surface’. Go into that person’s life and minister to him/her is the best way to get connected. Don't condemn anyone. Learn to believe in people (with wisdom and discernment), you will win many friends.

Remember, success is not determined by how much money and fame you possess but by the fruits of meaningful relationships you’ve cultivated. The rich and famous may one day still die a lonely man.

So, let’s cultivate fresh love in our hearts and work on our relationships with one another. We are only as strong as our weakest link!
Why don't you make it your aim this year to restore broken relationships & start building meaningful relationships!

Love God, Love people, Love life!
Shirley Boon
(this article copy pasted from http://shirleyboon7.blogspot.com/2011/03/lets-build-meaningful-relationships.html)
Shirley Boon - Consecrated Yet Contemporary 聆命之页: LET’S BUILD MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS!

Who Are We To Judge?

It is common nowadays for every human to judge someone or something based on their appearance or even their past and background. Look around that the enemy had planted judgmental arrows in a lot of God creation's hearts.

http://www.thejakartaglobe.com/opinion/malaysian-muftis-poco-poco-ban-is-divisive/434732

this news site reported on how some people's perception towards a dance. some people banned some celebrity to work in entertainment industry based on their past bad news about that particular person. some people banned yoga or anything because of the other religious element inside it. ironicaly its also happened among us, some of us won't make friend to someone who has bad past because we are afraid that we are going to be affected by that person. or some of us judge someone is this kind of person or that kind of person because of things that they are say and they do in the present.
the truth is ''There is not a wise man among you, not even one, who will be able to judge between his brethen"
(1 Cor6:5)
its not our right to judge whether a dance is a bad influence for the community because its originated from a different culture. we should come back to our heart on what our intention is when we are dancing that dance.
it is not our right to banned someone to do his job or work. because its not us who give that person a job but its God.are we questioning God's plan on other people's life?
and we dont have the right to mistreat people because of our own perception toward that people and because of other people perception towards him or her. because we are not the one who knows every details in that person's life, even that person might not know every details in their life. only God knows.
we better learn how to see beyond the situation in the past and present, and start to change our glasses with a wider accepting perspective. eventhough our mind and thought are limited, our God is not limited He can use anything and anyone regardles of their pasts, backgrounds, mistakes and failures to be a blessing for His work and for His people. When that person has their bad time period, it just that person is in his or her process of life in God shapping them to be a better person.for life is not stagnant it is progressing. and the higher you go the stronger the wind. and we will never go higher if we avoid the wind face it and go through it. let us strengthen ourselves in God to cut the wind. in the end God not look at our situation but our heart respond towards that situation. lets be grateful and keep doing our best in everything that we do. For of Him and through Him and to Him are all things, to whom be glory forever. Amen. (Rom11:36)