Gossiping and scratching

Have you ever feel itchy and you want to scratch it sooo bad but your mom not allowing you to scratch? i know that's frustrating.
I am having an allergic right now. my skin turned into pinkish red and feel so itchy. i really want to scratch it, but i know it will create infections and will leave scars on my skin. i really don't want that to happen. but i kind a imagine, if i scratch it, it will feel soooooo gooooooooddddddd. but hmmmm without i realize it will actually make me feel itchier.

well, according to this website http://www.skinvitality.ca/blog/2010/11/itchy-skin :

"Although scientists aren’t really sure why we scratch to relieve and itch, they do know that itchiness tends to get worse if you scratch the affected area. There are three possible reasons for this:

1. Scratching the epidermis (the outer layer of the skin) makes it thicker, which can make it itchier.

2. Scratching can break the skin and make it more vulnerable to infection – and infection can make it itchier, not to mention cause a bigger problem like scarring and pigmentation irregularities.

3. Scratching becomes a habit, and a mindless reflex to an itch. The more you scratch, the more the area feels itchy, and the more you scratch. It’s a vicious cycle that you must consciously stop."

In order for me to ease my itchiness feeling :D i typed this random blog and linked the itchiness into a totally different scenario, which is gossip. after meditating my random thought, i find itchiness quite similar with gossip.
have you ever consciously or unconsciously dislike someone and find your self really want other people to know what he/she did wrong and secretly hoping that the other person will agree with you?
ahh yaa, thats definitely the symptom of you are about to commit a gossip activity =D...
you eagerly want other people to know bad things about him/her, like the itchiness that you massively, eagerly, desperately want to scratch.
and then, when you release the things about the person you dislike and find out that the third person don't agree with it, you will try to find more evidences and arguments to prove that your points are right, And when you finally get the third party agree with what ever motives she/he has, you will feel relieved for awhile.
Like the itchiness the more you scratch the more you want to scratch it harder and wider until you feel satisfied.
However, after awhile you will regret that you have scratched it, because you will feel even more itchy until it feels painful. Because the more you scratch the bigger possibility you will get infections and get your skin bleeding. the same thing with gossip the more you entertain your itchiness to talk about that person the bigger the opportunity it will rob the joy from your heart and get your heart infected with the 'bitterness disease' towards that person.
For example when that person getting a promotion you will be sad and compare him/her to your self. or when there is other people agreed, appraised, valued, loved, cared with him/her you will get upset (*mostly unconsciously).
You gtta be watch out, it is a heart disease =D.

and anything related to heart will not be easily cured, although there is a reconciliation between you and that person the scars might still be there. the same with the itchiness, after you scratch then caused an infection bleeding after it dried, and then it will be a scar on your skin.
Then. as the copied article above mentioned, scratching itchiness will create a habit of scratching whenever you feel itch, and it will obviously create the same cycle from itchy to scars all over again. until the scars covered all of your body.
As in gosip, the more you do it the more you want to collect more of it and spread of it until it a "gossiper" become your signature character. =D

ewww, i believe you dont want the ugly scars affecting your beautiful appearance. please please bear the itchiness with me, =D i need a friend who can stand with me in this itchiness now. IT IS SUPPER ITCHY.... and lets bear ourselves from the desire of doing gossip, i believe none of us want the bitterness disease that caused by doing gossip will affecting our physical appearance and robing the beauty of God given joy inside us.

Memberi Dalam Kekurangan

Giving is not always an easy things to do for every person. The matter of amount to give, the occasion, the necessity or many things else affecting the willingness of an individual to give. however most people will feel it easy to give after they received something.
The question is can we give in when even ourselves is in need?

Mark 12: 44 ''They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything--all she had to live on."

The story of The widow's offering could be a good role model for us related to the topic of giving when we are in need, because out of her needs and poverty she could give offering with all of her heart, while many other people give according to what they have and their wealth and their riches.

Let say that we are in a situation where we don't have that much cash, we walk around a mall and suddenly we see something that we think it could bless a person heart if we buy and give it to that person. It is maybe because they like it or they need it.
But actually, we are in need of something else.
How many of us choose to put aside our own agenda and choose to get that thing and bless that person heart by giving the thing that they need and they like?


Another scenario, let say that we just had a break up that make us upset and sad and disappointed and we think that we have all the right to be comforted and cared by other people. Suddenly, one of our friend text us and ask us whether we have time to talk or not, because He/She needs a person to talk to. It might be He/She having serious problem with the family, losing someone, etc. How many of us choose to put aside our problem and choose to listen to that person?

Some of us might refuse to put aside our own agenda and problem. Maybe because we think that we could only afford to buy the small teddy bear rather that the big teddy bear, then there is no point to give. or because we think that we also have a serious problem and we think that we could not think properly to arrange any wise word as an advice for our friends then there is no point to respond to the invitation.

The point is not how expensive the thing that we bought for that person or how powerful our advice for that person. It is about our heart willingness.

I believe the teddy bear lover friend wont mind the small teddy bear. At least, He/She will know that we care and remember about her.
I believe the other person wont mind to only have us listen and look at her eyes when she telling you her story, He/She might just need a person to share her problem with and feel relieved after share to us.

God loves a cheerful giver who willing to give with all of their heart no matter what the circumstances are, because He wants us to put our faith in Him for all that we need.

We don't need to be worry when we are in need because God is our portion, He is our provider who always provide all our needs. He is our father who always love us no matter what, He will provide us the love, care, comfort, financial, or anything that we need in a right time and in a right amount according to His richness and our capacity in Him.

After all giving is a realization of love.
By a sincere giving we are telling the person who receive that we love them.

-CarolinE-

Love is waiting - Brooke Fraser

In the autumn on the ground, between the traffic and the ordinary sounds
I am thinking signs and seasons while a north wind blows through
I watch as lovers pass me by
Walking stories - whos and hows and whys
Musing lazily on love
Pondering you
I’ll give it time, give it space and be still for a spell
When it’s time to walk that way we wanna walk it well

[CHORUS]
I’ll be waiting for you baby
I’ll be holding back the darkest night
Love is waiting ‘til we’re ready, ‘til it’s right
Love is waiting

It’s my caution not the cold
There’s no other hand that I would rather hold
The climate changes, I’m singing for strangers about you
Don’t keep time, slow the pace
Honey hold on if you can
The bets are getting surer now that you’re my man

[CHORUS]

[BRIDGE]
I could write a million songs about the way you say my name
I could live a lifetime with you and then do it all again
And like I can’t force the sun to rise or hasten summer’s start,
Neither should I rush my way into your heart