Relationship Wisdom

Relationships in any form is one of human basic needs. without building good relationship, it is impossible for any human being to fulfill their physiological, safety, belonging, esteem and self actualization needs (based on Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

To fulfill Physiological needs (The most basic needs of human) which are health, food, sleep and many other thing which consider as "a must" needs to fulfilled in order to keep alive. In this case how can we get food, place to sleep and proper health if we don't "work for or work to or work with" other people to get the material to get those things?
Don't we need to establish good relationship to our boss, colleague or customers/client to get the material (money) to get food, place to sleep, and health matter.

We human also have the needs of belongings as wanting to feel love and loved, care and cared one to another. In order to fulfill this needs of course we need any kind of relationship as our subject of love and care and also the source for us to feel so.
We needs people to actualize and realize our capabilities and potential.
We needs people to learn from and learn with.
We might be able to do good in a lot of things but it doesn't mean that we could do good in everything.
That is why we need one another, to build connection one another through any kind of relationships. Family, Friends, Partner, Spouse, Neighbor, or any kind relationship are meant to be maintained well in order for us to fulfill the hierarchy of needs.
To have a strong relationship what we need to do is:

• To communicate as to be slow to speak and quick to listen, to tell and communicate truth. replacing "I, me, my, mine" to "you, yours, he/she, hers/his".
• To be interested to people and their life. Not only focus on our life and problems because everyone has their own problem.
  
• To make people feel important
• To pour smile when we meet people
• To encourage people
• To look for the point of agreement in every conversation
• To respect others
• To esteem others better than ourself
• To use people's name frequently
• To be complimentary towards others
  

If there are more people who apply relationship wisdom in their daily interaction, the world will be a better place. It is not an easy things to do, that is why we need to get back to whom relationships are made by. Only one can love us unconditionally, lets learn from Him on how to love without any reason. For no matter what we do, He'll always love us. Can we love people who hurt us, leave us, reject us or anything?
The answer is "No we can't"do it alone", but it will not be impossible if we not cling on our strength fully only. His wisdom, care, love will give us power to love people more.

Special thanks to Daniel Watania who preached about "building life that impacts culture" 4th Dec 2010, in deed it gv me idea what to write. =)